
To grossly over simplify a basic truth, Americans seem to have a love for Either/Or, All Or Nothing, kind of thinking. And in almost all cases the truth is not that simple.
Take for example the situation regarding alcohol.
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Right? Oh and hey btw I'm going to fly a jumbo jet and land it without any training of any kind. Same principle basically.
The worst thing in many ways about this countries dualistic attitudes is that is all but completely stifles intelligent intercourse about a whole host of subjects, alcohol amongst them. Recently however one parent has braved a potential backlash to talk honestly about her decisions with regards to alcohol and her kids.
Teenage drinking is the hot topic among any group of red-blooded American parents. We face giant challenges today. When I grew up, the drinking age was 18. My own senior in high school is old enough to legally fight and kill a human being in Iraq, but too young to pop open a beer at home.The article is well worth reading and really thinking about. One of the things that I liked best about it, was the way the author stressed being honest with kids, rather than simply giving them a lot of zero tolerance propaganda.
Admittedly, the whole issue of teens and drinking is scary when you meld reality with the irrationality of the teenage brain, or when you juxtapose human nature with the law. What should be clear-cut—kids under 21 can’t drink—is not so in practice. Our country’s puritanical roots, prohibitionist past, and attitude toward alcohol creates a subculture of fake IDs, sneaking around, and, as one mom said to me, “forcing kids and their cars further into the woods to drink.”
The One About Me And The Alcoholic Olympics.
Speaking from my own personal experiences I can definitely agree that parental modeling is very important. My own parents fit the "Weekend Warrior" style. They would be perfectly sober during the week, but when the weekend came it was time for them to go down to the bar and hang out with their friends. Almost invariably they came home sh'faced. Ironically for quite a while I was almost on the Temperance Wagon as their behavior had me pretty disgusted with drinking. Memories of being on a camping trip with my moms brothers and sisters joining us at a local lake, and my father in the morning a river of vomit streaming forth as he hung in the middle of the little airstream trailer, stay with me to this day.
But eventually I tried it and just like Mikey I liked it. For a time a little too much. Part of my problem was making the rather poor choice to become emotionally involved with an alcoholic. Once I saw I could not "save" her I decided to join her. I call this period my attempt to qualify for The Alcoholic Olympics. As the character of Tulip O'Hare says in the pages of Preacher, "Eventually every drunk gets a wake up call." Mine was the month that the only bill that got paid was rent and then only barely. After that I decided that I loved drinking so much that I didn't want to ever "have" to quit. So I took a hiatus.
When I came back to drinking it was as a much more aware person. I taught myself my "buzz level". Basically how much I can drink and have a little buzz but still be able to cope with an emergency. I also did some reading and learned about the importance of drinking water to prevent hangover. Finally I developed a rule for drinking that would later help me with my food issues too. I call it the "The work and grimace rule". Very simply put, the first mixed drink, the first shot, or the first beer usually tastes really really good. The second one, not too bad either. Usually from the third on I notice myself grimacing before every swallow and feeling like I'm on the clock. That means I'm no longer enjoying it, and so it's time to stop.
No it's not a perfect system, and obviously would not work for everyone. But how much better to put out the idea of acting in moderation than this all or nothing crap that so many seem to favor?
Keep The Faith My Brothers And Sisters!
No it's not a perfect system, and obviously would not work for everyone. But how much better to put out the idea of acting in moderation than this all or nothing crap that so many seem to favor?
Keep The Faith My Brothers And Sisters!
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